Ereshkigal is the true essence of a Dark Goddess. From the moment she enters Irkalla, the Underworld, she embraces the realm and her role as Queen and Goddess of the Law. In spiritual terms, she embodies the shadow self; what psychoanalyst Jung described as the undesirable parts of our consciousness – the things we deem as evil, inferior, or unacceptable.
As Queen of the Cemetery, Oya guards the gate between the living and the dead. She does not live in the cemetery; think of her role here as a kind of ‘day job’. She stands at the gates, ensuring the boundaries between birth, death, and rebirth are respected, and that every soul is accounted for. As she is the Goddess of Wind, it is said the first breath of life we take and the last breath we give belong to Oya.
I had a tendency to get caught up with dudes and guys, instructing them in the basics of being a civilized companion. Like no, it’s not appropriate to make fart jokes on a first, second, or hundredth date. Yes, it is rude to ask me out to dinner and then expect me to pay. No, it’s not okay to ask me a question and then check your phone will I’m talking. Yes, foreplay actually IS a real thing, and no, it’s only boring if you’re doing it wrong.
One day during a deep meditation, I saw how much of myself I was hiding from the world, and my own consciousness. And why was I doing that – to make others more comfortable? To get more clients, or a better chance at getting published? Was I seriously sacrificing my own comfort level, happiness, and growth to supply people with what they were expecting to see?